You Don’t Have to Be Everything to Everyone:
A Letter to the Working Mom
You don’t have to do it all.
You don’t have to carry it all.
You don’t have to be it all.
Dear Mama,
Take a breath. No really—inhale deeply, hold it for a moment, and exhale slowly.
You’ve been holding your world together with one hand while stirring dinner with the other, replying to emails with your elbow, and offering bedtime snuggles in between. I see you.
Whether you’re a teacher mom who gives your best energy to a room full of students before coming home to your own navigating deadlines, meetings, and family dinners with one eye on your phone and the other on your child’s school project… or a stay-at-home mom who juggles snack times, nap schedules, and the never-ending laundry cycle while silently carrying the weight of everyone else’s needs…
I want you to know something incredibly important:
You don’t have to be everything to everyone.
We’ve been sold the idea that the “perfect” mom does it all—flawlessly. She shows up early for work, packs organic lunches, volunteers in the classroom, keeps the house tidy, stays emotionally available, plans Pinterest-worthy birthday parties, and still makes time for self-care.
But let’s be real: That mom is a myth.
And chasing her is exhausting.
The truth is, you’re already doing enough. More than enough. And you deserve grace.
You are not failing because you picked up fast food again.
You are not failing because you needed a moment to cry in the bathroom.
You are not failing because your energy ran out before bedtime stories.
You are human.
You carry so much. The invisible mental load—remembering the dentist appointments, keeping track of permission slips, scheduling playdates, folding laundry while also managing your own emotions (and sometimes your partner’s too). And you do it all while working inside or outside the home, giving pieces of yourself to everyone who needs you.
But mama, what if I told you that letting go of trying to be everything… is not failure?
It’s freedom.
When you say no to one more thing on your plate, you say yes to breathing room.
When you delegate, you teach your family that teamwork is strength.
When you rest, you reset. You renew. You heal.
And when your children see you take care of yourself, they learn what self-respect looks like.
You are not selfish for needing space.
You are not weak for asking for help.
You are not broken for feeling overwhelmed.
You are wise for recognizing your limits—and strong for honoring them.
Let go of perfection.
Let go of the guilt.
Let go of the pressure to meet everyone else’s needs before your own.
Because the truth is, your love is not measured in checkboxes.
It’s found in the small moments. The tired smiles. The whispered prayers. The fierce hugs.
So this is your permission slip, mama—from one working woman to another:
You don’t have to do it all. You don’t have to carry it all. You don’t have to be it all.
You are already enough. Just as you are. Right now.
And that? That is more than worthy.
You don't have to be it all."
"You Don't Have to Be Everything" Toolkit for Moms
You don’t need a cape, Mama — you need a few good tools!
Here’s a lovingly curated collection of resources to help you let go of the pressure and embrace a little more peace, balance, and joy.
These are some of my go-to lifesavers when I’m running on fumes and trying to remember I don’t have to be everything to everyone.
TheraBox
– Monthly self-care box curated by therapists. Includes stress relief tools, journals, and pampering items
Let a little joy land on your doorstep each month. You deserve it.
Guide to a Peaceful Home
– Systems for less overwhelming home care
You don’t have to carry the whole house on your back.
Fabletics
– Affordable, comfy activewear for working moms on the go
Because feeling put together doesn’t have to mean more work.
PrepDish
– Healthy meal plans & grocery lists done for you
Decision fatigue is real
— skip the stress of ‘what’s for dinner?
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Thank you for supporting this space and other moms just like you.
KiwiCo –
Hands-on STEAM activities delivered to your door
Independent play with a purpose
= time for you to breathe.
Cheers to thriving, not just surviving
— and remember, your Mommy Mindset Matters.
Until next time,
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